Dear Parents and Fans,
Please do not drag me, the coach’s wife, into your sports politics.
I do not want to participate and have no real influence on what happens on the playing field.
Trust me, I am the last person my husband will ask an opinion from.
Besides, I am not very fond of politics in any way. I lack the ability to act as a politician. Being honest has always felt like the most important thing to me.
My job is to love, pray, and encourage every member of my coach’s team and not play favorites.
We believe this is our ministry, called to demonstrate Christ’s love for us all. And in order to do that we must follow His lead.
Mark 12:30-31 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
We cannot honor God’s commandment and play politics.
I am not going to compromise my integrity, or my husband’s for that matter, for your personal gain.
I have seen with my own eyes the natural disaster playing politics causes. Nothing good is going to come from constant nagging, complaining, negativity, or threats—not for you, not for the program.
Ask yourself, What is the end goal, anyway?
I firmly believe sports are designed to encourage self-esteem, confidence, and nurture our children. Isn’t that why you encourage them to play in the first place?
As a parent or fan don’t you want them to learn to be a good teammate, how to work hard and overcome challenges?
I leave decisions about strategy, game plan, and playing time up to my husband and the rest of the staff. When coaches are pressured by fans and parents to win, or simply motivated by their own egos, our players and programs lose.
They get caught in the middle of a win-at-any-cost mentality. Then players graduate and take that mentality into the workplace, creating Karens and Carls, who constantly need to get their way and complain about everything.
Does the world need more Karens and Carls?
Lastly, I leave you with this: molding anyone into a God-loving, kind, resilient human is hard work. It takes a village to pour into and pray over that soul. We want to be a part of that. Don’t you want me and coach to be a part of it?
The Coach’s Wife