#1. Don't treat everyone the same. Everyone responds differently. Some require encouragement, while others require pressure and challenge.
Isn't that the truth? 3 boys in 6 years and each is completely different! One worked for rewards, the other two you'd have to trick to do anything. They are all amazing humans and do what they are supposed to do, but it was tricky to figure out what made them tick when they were small.
#2. "Focus on what you can control. Find your player's strengths and use them to make your team better."
I had real trouble here. It seemed disorderly to not have my kids do what I wanted them to, how and when I wanted them to do it. It works okay as toddlers because, of course, they put away their toys and used their manners as I told them to. But as they grew, their strategies for becoming who they were started to reflect themselves and if it didn't match how I did it, I had to remember that's not the point. What works for them helps the "team" (family). So, save the struggle for the real issues.
#3 "Control your actions. You can be quick but don't rush."
The hustle is real with 3 little boys and a busy husband, but I always observed and treasured it. How magical was this time? What a privilege for this to be my life. When they asked me to, "look" or they have to "tell me something special"... that was moment to stop in my tracks and give them a hundred percent of my attention.
#4."Love rules. The purpose of discipline isn't to punish but to correct."
It's because of this, I think all my boys are reasonable. They've gotten in trouble, and they've known they've deserved it, but I've never been unable to reason with them. We are here to help you be a good person. That is the reason I am here. They can mess up, and I can help them get back on track.