Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Psalm 23:6 I am probably very similar to you. My first experience with this verse and the five stanzas that precede it occurred at a funeral. As a result, I assumed …
During one of our early seasons that didn’t end with a good record, the Athletic Director told the entire coaching staff that they needed to “fix it” or they’d all be gone. This was only our second season at this school, so it was difficult to embrace the “fix it” logic since my coach didn’t …
Our household includes one coach and one social worker, and I do not think that happened accidentally. I spend my life viewing the world through the lens of “what is happening behind the scenes in this person’s life?” I can’t help but apply that to every child who walks through the doors of my coach’s …
At one point in my “dating life,” I was in love with a young man that had no doubt in his mind that he would be a minister; most of the men in his family were/are, so you might say it was in his DNA. I could see us having a future, but truthfully, I …
Therefore encourage and build one another up just as you are already doing… 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NASB) We all value those sisters who married another mister coach and how they get this coaching life we live, the crazy one where our entire livelihood depends on how coachable sixteen and seventeen-year-old kids are. We fall in …
As a new coach’s wife, I was told: “Well, we just do life without him. You get used to it.” I remember thinking this can’t be what it is like; I don’t think I can live like that!! I married him before he was a coach. I didn’t sign up for this. I don’t want …
I always consider how the title of a blog post must sound to other people. If you’re not a coach’s wife, I’m guessing this title makes very little sense. What do you mean, “how does that work?” You just pick a church and you go. Why does being a coach’s wife or being a coaching …
In college, Ordell confidently sought opportunities to gain college coaching experience. At the same time, I struggled to find my footing as I juggled jobs with Young Life student staff, personal training, and teaching swimming lessons. I couldn’t figure out how to combine everything I was enjoyed doing and sleep! He knew his calling because …
One of the hardest parts of this coaching life, that I’ve found at least, is letting go of the illusion of control. From our schedule, to where we live, to who we find next to us as other coach’s wives, we have a say in very few decisions. We have to be willing to give …
When I want to irritate my coach, I ask him to emote verbally with questions like…”Why did you marry me?” Occasionally, when he has grown bored with a crass retort, he will reply with, “Why did you marry me?” Without a pause, I can answer, “the strength of your character…” And exactly twenty-three years and …
“How are you liking it here?” This simple question can bring up a lot of emotions for a coach’s wife, especially if she’s recently moved. The word home, to most, has a straightforward definition. It’s where you choose to live, or it’s where you’re from. To the luckiest, it’s both of those. But for most …
This summer we moved and I liked the town we were in. By some miracle of miracles, I had ended up in a tiny little football community that just happened to also be the hometown of one of my best friends. My connection to her meant that I got connected to everyone and everything fast. …
Retired. The word itself conjures up images of books being read, lazy afternoons, lunches with girl-friends, or peaceful walks on a beach. It speaks in deeply rested breathes and an overwhelming joy that “every day is now Saturday”. Or does it… Though I have stepped back from my career, I haven’t stepped away from my …
I’ve started and stopped writing this a million times over. The truth is, as I am writing, I realize the pain is still very fresh. The memories are also deep and I am not sure I can share our story. I also question if this is even the proper outlet. But then I realize, it …
When I comment on posts about feeding my husband’s wide receivers at the house, I think some of us envision a 21st-century version of Mrs. Cleaver standing at the edge of her kitchen, with a fresh coif, pearls around her neck without a shine or shadow on her face, holding a platter of meat delicately …
A mom picked up her son from school. His hair was messy and his face was beaded with sweat from his last recess. “I have a surprise for you,” she said. They began to walk to the car as he recalled the events of his day. She opened the door to reveal the surprise – …
We have all been there. We have heard the complaints from the stands. We have read the negative comments on the school’s social media page (Pro tip: keep scrolling). And last but not least, we hear it from our husbands. Like the time the new head coach deciding to meet on Sundays…during church *facepalm*. Or …
I am not a hoarder. In fact, I love the purging process. I guess in that regard God wired me to thrive in this crazy life. But there’s one thing I’m not ready to give up…my moving boxes. Babies have security blankets; I guess I have security boxes. I never even considered that I’d live a …
Being a coach’s wife is complicated. This life on its own comes with certain specific challenges that only those in this industry can understand. Between the schedules, expectations, pressures of the job, and all the ways that coaching impacts life at home, there are lots of moving parts and a million things for me to …
Let’s talk about therapy. Because I’m a therapist. And a coach’s wife. And, this might be just what you need. I am super happy to report that mental and emotional healthcare has lost some of its stigma over the years since I started seeing folks in the early ‘aughts. Thanks to some brilliant awareness campaigns, …
