A mom picked up her son from school. His hair was messy and his face was beaded with sweat from his last recess. “I have a surprise for you,” she said. They began to walk to the car as he recalled the events of his day. She opened the door to reveal the surprise – …
We have all been there. We have heard the complaints from the stands. We have read the negative comments on the school’s social media page (Pro tip: keep scrolling). And last but not least, we hear it from our husbands. Like the time the new head coach deciding to meet on Sundays…during church *facepalm*. Or …
I am not a hoarder. In fact, I love the purging process. I guess in that regard God wired me to thrive in this crazy life. But there’s one thing I’m not ready to give up…my moving boxes. Babies have security blankets; I guess I have security boxes. I never even considered that I’d live a …
Being a coach’s wife is complicated. This life on its own comes with certain specific challenges that only those in this industry can understand. Between the schedules, expectations, pressures of the job, and all the ways that coaching impacts life at home, there are lots of moving parts and a million things for me to …
Let’s talk about therapy. Because I’m a therapist. And a coach’s wife. And, this might be just what you need. I am super happy to report that mental and emotional healthcare has lost some of its stigma over the years since I started seeing folks in the early ‘aughts. Thanks to some brilliant awareness campaigns, …
I am tired, God. The middle of the season arrived before I could blink, and yet my bones weigh three times as much as they should – like I have been holding up the whole world. Sometimes, I just want it to stop spinning and let me get off the weekly merry-go-round of practice, junior …
Dear Star Player, You’re being watched. When you score those touchdowns. When you make that open field tackle. When you make that near-impossible catch. You’re being watched. When you come up short on fourth and goal. When you miss that tackle that let them score. When you drop that pass that hit you in the …
“One of the most beautiful things about the way God designed marriage is that when we love our partners as Jesus modeled, we reflect Christ’s love and heart to each other every day. Sacrificial love in marriage is a two-way street. ” Lessons from the Sidelines Sadly, in the past twenty years, I have watched …
On June 10, 2019, we arrived at the clinic for a routine ultrasound. We went every two weeks to check the growth of our identical twin boys. My husband had finished coaching morning workouts and would leave for 7-on-7 football after our appointment. Unexpectedly, the ultrasound technician could not find Baby A’s heartbeat. I was …
Dear Coach, Thank you for all the wins that were wrapped up in the loss last night. Forgive us parents for celebrating after the game last night and possibly appearing to not take the loss in as serious of a fashion as you might have expected. We waited excitedly for your post-game speech to end …
We’ve been living the coach’s wife life a while, twenty years in fact if you count dating and marriage. So, I guess it shouldn’t have surprised me when we were lying in bed a few weeks ago and I heard those familiar, quiet sniffles. It’s always him who starts first and, it’s always over something …
It was a cold Friday night during football season. I was helping sell merchandise to raise money for the football program. In the midst of football season, I potty trained our daughter. Everyone told me it was a bad idea, but what can I say? I like to march to the beat of my own …
I don’t know about you, but I hate the saying, “We interrupt this marriage to bring you football season.” I would agree that it is hard, and you have to adapt and make sacrifices and there is never enough time in the day. But I also think there are ways to make the season sweeter …
Being a wife in season is not easy! But I've learned that when I identify and uproot the cause of my pain and frustration, I can plant seeds (or should I say turf beads?) of joy.
However, just as the Texas sun splashed against the horizon leaving all her glory on the field, I thought of Afghanistan, and Haiti, and the other places in our world where hurt permeates everywhere. In the middle of our scrimmage, the hurt for others pierced a sky only God could create and made me pause.
Some unknown, unpredictable speed bump will come out of nowhere and send us airborne. Our eyes will turn skyward, the road will fall away, and we’ll have to pray and proclaim, “HERE WE GO!!!”
It never fails.
Truthfully, dad can’t do all this work on his strength alone. But we are lending him to God to use in the lives of the players, coaches, and our hometown this season. And we are trusting God to move mountains.
I have always found it frustrating to not get to where I want to be, with new friends, with the new house, in the new community, immediately. I also fall victim to always comparing my brand new beginning to the well developed ending that just occurred. I’ve learned that I need to be patient and realistic. It takes time to get where I would like to be, usually years.
Yes, we are moving Lord, but You are already there, just as You are here. It is such a comfort that we cannot escape the cover of Your love, no matter how far we move.
But here’s the thing head coach’s wife, for every challenging situation I understand, there are ten amazing that flood my mind. Coaching is a ministry that includes a constant rotation of new people to serve. This means that our mission field will change every year whether we move on or our entire staff remains the same.
