Raising kids amidst the crazy.
One thing that we’ve learned through the years on Friday Night Wives is that every coaching family represented is striving to do their best to support their spouses. We’ve also discovered that outside observers often have grandiose ideas of what actually goes on under the roofs of a coach’s home. If you’re wondering why your …
We’re answering another question in our Veteran Coach’s Wife series. How do you get through the baby/toddler phase during football season without feeling alone and lost? Between supporting my husband in a sport that I’m not really interested in, working through the stress of my own demanding job, and trying to keep two tiny humans under the …
I am not a hoarder. In fact, I love the purging process. I guess in that regard God wired me to thrive in this crazy life. But there’s one thing I’m not ready to give up…my moving boxes. Babies have security blankets; I guess I have security boxes. I never even considered that I’d live a …
“Where’s Daddy?” — The question that gets asked regularly this time of year. Each time the answer is the same — “He’s at football.” That phrase, “He’s at football.” Sure, that’s where he is, but what he’s doing there is so much more than just the game of football. He’s making boys stronger, physically and …
Coaches’ wives are a different breed, you can read articles, and listen to stories, but until you actually have walked in our shoes you will never understand the stress that comes with being a coach’s family. Sports wives all over the world are stretching themselves thin due to the demanding work this career calls for. …
Let’s talk about therapy. Because I’m a therapist. And a coach’s wife. And, this might be just what you need. I am super happy to report that mental and emotional healthcare has lost some of its stigma over the years since I started seeing folks in the early ‘aughts. Thanks to some brilliant awareness campaigns, …
I had 7 years as a coach’s significant other before we started having kids. I was able to learn from few different women at different stages and different ages of kids. Knowing how hard it was for me personally, I was taking notes for how I would help my future kids through the tough parts …
Dear Coach, There is something about the 5 AM alarm going off the very last week of summer. The repeated beeping is slightly less annoying than it is on any regular ol’ day. I don’t exactly love this wake-up call but I don’t hate it either. There is a different feeling in the household this …
If you are like me, you probably think your coach is brilliant! However, as smart as my favorite over-grown eighth-grader is at anticipating a worthy opponent, he usually fails miserably if I expect him to read my mind. And round-about week five or six, my “coach love meter” threatens to bounce on an empty tank, …
“One of the most beautiful things about the way God designed marriage is that when we love our partners as Jesus modeled, we reflect Christ’s love and heart to each other every day. Sacrificial love in marriage is a two-way street. ” Lessons from the Sidelines Sadly, in the past twenty years, I have watched …
Every coach’s wife who has faced the witching hour alone knows what I’m talking about. Whether you have one kid or multiple kids, you know exactly what I am referencing. What is this topic you might ask? Dun, dun, dun…. Bedtime! As a coach’s wife, bedtime during football season can seem daunting, at least for …
Dear Coach’s Girl, With your big brother, I’ve loved every minute of watching him emulate your father. I’ve gotten emotional thinking of all the ways he will teach your brother to grow into a good man. Then it hit me. You will be looking at me in the same way to teach and lead you. …
On June 10, 2019, we arrived at the clinic for a routine ultrasound. We went every two weeks to check the growth of our identical twin boys. My husband had finished coaching morning workouts and would leave for 7-on-7 football after our appointment. Unexpectedly, the ultrasound technician could not find Baby A’s heartbeat. I was …
It’s the home season opener and I’m sitting on my couch. In 13 years, I can count on both hands the times that I have missed a game. And they were all away games. So this is a first for me. And I could give you a hundred reasons for deciding to stay home. It’s …
One of the most commonly asked questions in the FNW Facebook Group is what to bring along on game day to keep the kids entertained. It shouldn’t surprise anyone that coaches’ wives are desperate for any way to grab a few extra minutes of uninterrupted game time viewing. That begs the question from a lifetime …
To the Player on the Field, the Wrestler on the Mat, and the Parents Who Lend Them to the Coach: You may not know me other than “the Coach’s Wife,” but please remember “Coach” is my husband. I’d like to tell you a few things from my heart: Your coach, my husband, truly cares about …
Here comes the bride, but first, it’s football season. First off, CONGRATULATIONS. We can’t wait to welcome you into this coaching wife lifestyle but also know we understand what you are going through. I was in your shoes not long ago. I was a football player’s girlfriend and coach’s fiancé before I was a coach’s …
I’ve never moved for a job and I’ve never moved for my husband’s job before. I know people do it all the time, across all career levels and different fields. Before this year we’ve always taken jobs that were near our home base. So when my husband got a call to be an Offensive Coordinator …
We’ve been living the coach’s wife life a while, twenty years in fact if you count dating and marriage. So, I guess it shouldn’t have surprised me when we were lying in bed a few weeks ago and I heard those familiar, quiet sniffles. It’s always him who starts first and, it’s always over something …
It was a cold Friday night during football season. I was helping sell merchandise to raise money for the football program. In the midst of football season, I potty trained our daughter. Everyone told me it was a bad idea, but what can I say? I like to march to the beat of my own …
