So, while it is important to cheer for others, don’t forget to treat yourself the way you treat others. Give yourself grace, recognize that perfection isn’t the goal, and don’t ever give up.
Category: Friendship
Dear Future Self, When You’re a Veteran Coach’s Wife
Comparison is the thief of joy. But that new wife can’t help but compare herself to the “ideal” coach’s wife.
Veteran, you know by now that there is no true mold for a “good coach’s wife.”
But she is trying to figure out what that looks like. She may feel inadequate if she doesn’t have the time or mental space to bake cookies or cook meals for the team.
When Jealousy of Other Team’s Success Creeps In, Remember This
I found myself counting their blessings rather than my own. The sour attitude I had was causing a ripple effect throughout all parts of my life.
When You’re Lonely in a Crowded Stadium (Re: Friendship is Hard)
Do you find yourself lonely, even in the midst of busy stadiums and gymnasiums? Do you know too much about school politics? Do you sit on the visitors’ side instead of the home stands? Do you wonder what a parent’s motivation might be when they initiate friendship?
An All-In Coach’s Wife: Sneak Peek at the Two-Week Devotional
I’ve come to the conclusion that coaches' wives who develop 4 characteristics—patience, perspective, perseverance, and peace—end up being able to walk through this life with a little more determination and ease.
The Enneagram of Coaches’ Wives: Which Number are You?
"The Pacer" is most dedicated to the status of the game. They are seen pacing back and forth, biting their nails, head in their hands. They are loyal to the team and to the game. They get anxious during games and often have superstitions.
Coach’s Wife, You Have Eyes on You Because of Who You Married—Lead With Love
What does this kinda-famous-by-proxy leadership mean during a pandemic…in an election year…in a time when civil rights and racial injustices are major societal players as well? Oh, and the hardships and heartaches unique to each community in typical circumstances—those haven’t gone away either.
Whether You are Fearful, Thankful, Depressed, Anxious: Your Feelings Are Valid
It’s okay if you’re mourning the loss of something you’ve worked really hard for (like so many of our coaches are currently doing). You’re allowed to mourn.
To the Wives in My Tribe from the New Wife on Staff: Thank You
Thank you for your support. In the midst of a lot of unknowns, you were there! You offered great advice and answered every question. Trust me, I had a lot of them. Your unwavering support to welcome and assist my family in this new time was a blessing.
Football Might Bring Us to the Stadium; But Community is What Gives it Life
Football is the reason we’re brought together, to cheer on the game and its players, but it takes on life because of the surroundings—I am moved by the music, join in with the cheerleaders, become gracious in a win, remain respectful in a loss, join in the celebration of our school, and most of all, I also find imperfect people around me who are trying to grow a community.
No Matter How Many Times You Move, Starting Over is Always Hard
I am trying to acknowledge the daily victories, like my child made his first friend or I found a dentist that doesn’t have a 6 month wait. With each small victory, it gets a little easier.
Here's to Football Season
Here’s to binge-watching Bravo and watching his location so we can do a mad-dash-cleanup just before he drags his bones through the back door long after dark.
Here’s to Football Season
Here’s to binge-watching Bravo and watching his location so we can do a mad-dash-cleanup just before he drags his bones through the back door long after dark.
I Let Her Fake Life Suck the Joy Out of My Real Life
If only MY coach had time for me like hers does. If only OUR team had that kind of fan base/support. If OUR team didn’t have the drama. If MY relationship looked like that. If MY house was designed by Joanna Gaines, THEN, then I’d have it all.
We are a Childfree Coaching Family
For this reason, I do feel that I often have difficulty connecting with other coaches' wives who lament about traveling to games solo with children, getting up during the night to care for children, worrying about their children finishing their homework, making it to their own extracurricular activities, the list goes on. We all struggle, but the struggles look different and sometimes I feel there is an unbreakable barrier between us.
Passing the Baton
You never want to think, "What if I don't outlive my kid?" But recently, my husband and I did have that thought. And recently, we changed our wills to bequeath our child to another coaching family.
Dear New School, It’s Me—The New Coach’s Wife
You don’t know me yet but you will! I’ll be the crazy blonde lady in the stands. The one who some days may look put together and other days … not so much.
I’m Sorry. I Can’t. It’s Football Season.
So when I say, “I’m sorry. I can’t. It’s football season,” I hope you hear, “I wish I could, but it’s really important to me to support my husband because I fully believe that what he does is more than just a game.”
Being a Coaching Family Means More
Here’s the thing though, if you embrace this life instead of fight it, it can be so much more than just a game or just a sport, because even with the ups and downs, being a coaching family means more.
The Fabric of a Coach’s Wife
So, chuck those expectations
A coach’s wife she has no mold
Just love that man and love those kids
Love Jesus and grow old.
Live in your unique freedom
To survive this crazy life
Feel free to break the mold my friend
You are a coach’s wife.