Okay, so the title is totally a Frozen 2 stealer, but honestly, I cannot think of a better “phrase” as we approach the fall and many sports seasons.
This year has been a crazy one, to say the least. So many pauses and cancellations of life events, some that perhaps you were very much looking forward to.
The big questions that seems to be going around right now is …
What about this fall?
What about this school year?
And better yet for our families: What about our husbands sports seasons?
We are officially seeing the concern and wonder in our coaches’ eyes. They are trying to stay positive for their athletes, but yet they are trying to be honest too.
The unknown is the biggest anticipation in our lives.
As a Mental Health Therapist in private practice, I am starting to see the same questions from the adults and adolescents that I see.
They too are wondering, what will school look like and will I even get to play sports? How are we handling their anxiety and fears right now?
I know I do not have all the answers and I learn daily from my coach, three year old little girl, and patients. But what if there is an answer that we could look towards to help calm nerves and anxieties, as the unknowns start to play out before us within the next month.
What if instead of worrying and fearing our husbands won’t get to have a season, we turn those thoughts into a positive.
I know you are thinking, How in the world can this be a positive, if there is no season?
In life, you can always turn a negative into a positive. It comes down to your mindset, determination, and want for that positive.
Let’s say there happens to be no season for whatever sport your husband is coaching this year.
My husband is a high school head football coach. In our state, we are unsure of what is going to happen for our football season.
This year, what if we turned a no season year into a positive, a blessing for our families.
I know for us football season is crazy and we often miss so many meals together and family activities because football takes priority. As our children get older, there are many times our husbands will have to miss their activities because, well, sports.
What if we look at this as an opportunity for family time and being together? This is an opportunity to come together with your spouse to build up and encourage.
These are crazy times we are living in right now and we will never have these chances and opportunities again to truly live in this moment. Living in this moment of no season or even an “altered” season is going to be strange and even hard, but we do not have to let it control our minds with negative thoughts.
Our coaches and our players are counting on us to be the positive encourager.
What are some ways you can encourage and lift up your coach during this trying time?
Here are a few to try:
- Leave encouraging notes throughout the house/car.
- On game days (if there’s no season) write out a note with a plan of action for something fun to do that night as a family.
- If you have children, have them leave their daddy a card that they personally made them. I can promise that will encourage them and put a smile on their faces.
- And the best thing you can ever do is just be there. Be there for them. Let them know that you are going to stand hand in hand with them and that at the end of the day, you will all get through this—together.
My prayer is that you take this opportunity to walk “Into the Unknown.” Face it head on with the desire for a positive attitude and mindset in order to help encourage and support your spouse.
No matter what states and sports decide at the end of the day, we are here to serve and love others. Seasons or no seasons, there’s no doubt in my mind that we will continue to strive to do those things.
Friday Night Wives, we’ve got this!
Ginger Thornton, LCSW
Mental Health Therapist
Head Football Coach’s Wife