athletics Archives - Friday Night Wives

Dear Parents, Don’t Drag Me Into Team Politics

I leave decisions about strategy, game plan, and playing time up to my husband and the rest of the staff. When coaches are pressured by fans and parents to win, or simply motivated by their own egos, our players and programs lose.

Journal, Marriage

Any Team Can Beat Any Team on Any Day

When your unranked team faces a top ten team—hope sees the underdog come out on top. When your team has never beaten a certain opponent—hope brings the game to end that losing streak. When you are facing your cross-town rival in your State Championship—hope makes that unexpected victory so ...

Journal

To the Parents and Fans: If You Could See What I’ve Seen

The behind the scenes is where the nitty-gritty happens. The stuff no one sees is what really matters and the reason these men and women who are coaches do what they do.

Family, Journal

You are a Coach’s Daughter. And That’s Something to be Proud of.

Some people will talk about you behind your back because they’re jealous of you. But some people will love you because of who you are. They will love you because your daddy took the time to help their son or brother when there was no one else that wanted to deal with him.

Faith, Journal

Can I Pray for a Win?

As an educator, I know that a student who tries and fails and tries again learns more than those that are constantly successful. The same is true for a football game. We lose to learn. Does it suck? Yep, it sucks big time. But is it necessary to learn and grow as an individual, team, program, ...

Faith, Family, Journal

If Football Season Doesn’t Happen

And, while sports are certainly minor in comparison to keeping the world safe, the pain we may encounter still matters. It matters very much.

Journal, Marriage

Dear Coach, When You’re Losing

But I need you to know how much I love you when you are losing. I see you bring out the best you have to offer your athletes when you are losing.

Faith, Family, Journal, Marriage

The Coaches’ Wives Top Ten

Whatever conversation others may have with me in hopes I will share with my husband, will NEVER get to him! The coach’s spouse is often treated like a side door into the coach’s office. No, we don’t know what our husband is going to do about playing time. No, I don’t know our husband is going ...

Family, Journal

Living in the Space Between Winning and Losing

Yes, we step into that space and remind our men of the kids who do listen … of the kids who become adults and still reach out … of the kids who needed a surrogate father … of the kids who played out of their shoes … of the kids who just need one caring adult and our men stepped into the space, ...

Family, Friendship, Journal

Dear New School, It’s Me—The New Coach’s Wife

You don’t know me yet but you will! I’ll be the crazy blonde lady in the stands. The one who some days may look put together and other days … not so much.

Faith, Journal, Marriage

Surviving the “What Might Have Beens” of Sports

I’m not sure there’s anyone who struggles with the “what might have been” mentality more than a coach (can I get an AMEN?!). It sometimes tortures them. Day and night. In and out of season. And golly does my husband have it bad. Like real bad. Sometimes before bed we still mull over the year ...

Journal

When You Lose a Player

My professional training is as a mental health therapist so I assume that is why we have received quite a few of these phone calls from coaching colleagues over the years. Through our own difficult experiences and those of others, I am hopeful that I may be able to share some tips here that can ...

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