6. Bring a friend.
This is for the older ones, but bringing one of your kid's friends along is easy entertainment. Occasionally, it'll be closing in on the end of the fourth, and I'll have no idea where a kid is because they've been playing somewhere with their friend.
The sight that met me inside those doors was one I will never forget—and one I have not stopped loving since. There they were, a sea of men. Old and young, many with excellent beards, all of them wearing football apparel.
It wasn’t that bad early in his career. But, several years ago we went through a couple of tough seasons and were (ahem) “not rehired.” That event took a toll on me I never would have anticipated. Now, I have to be very intentional about managing fear and anxiety during the season – even if the season is going well.
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So how do we figure out our season budget? Here are the tips we go by for our family, which includes twin 10-year-old girls who look at the candy in the concession stand as if they are seeing those brightly wrapped balls and ribbons of sugar for the first time every time.
It is easy to become frustrated with you when you haven’t been home for the 400th meltdown and for the 50th fight requiring a referee. It’s easy to not care about what you’ve been doing while I have been handling the home front, but I do truly care.
The most loyal fan (besides a Coach’s Wife of course) at any athletic event is the school mascot. Rain or shine, night or day, year after year teams count on their mascots to cheer for them on the sidelines. A great mascot knows when to get the crowd going, when the team needs a boost, and how to entertain the fans during timeouts.
All this hard work is often overlooked. So we thought we’d take a minute to say thanks to all the Lions, Rams, Tigers, Panthers, Bears, and Pioneers. You’re Great! We appreciate you.
However, today we’re giving an extra shout out to the mascots that are especially memorable for many reasons.
Fun Fact: Legend has it this mascot was chosen when a hippo escaped from a circus train.
Winters, TX: Blizzards
Fun Fact: Winters, TX rarely sees snow … much less a blizzard.
New Braunfels, TX: Unicorns
Fun Fact: This mascot is actually the result of a misunderstanding. According to kwnewbraunfels.com, the unicorn was originally taken from a coat of arms of Prince Carl of Solms-Braunfels. They thought the arms depicted a blue unicorn in a gold field. However, it was later discovered it was not a unicorn, but in fact a lion. I guess there was no turning back.
Hamlin, TX: Hamlin HS Pied Pipers
Fun Fact: The school often chooses to shorten their name to the Pipers and uses an H as their logo rather than their mascot. Could it be the rats?
Fun Fact:We don’t get it either. But head basketball coach Joe Cortez boasts ten state championships, so the buttons really must be MIGHTY.
Amarillo, TX: Sandies
Fun Fact: The cheerleaders hold up signs during games that say “Blow.” We suppose sand in the eye would make it hard to compete.
Hoopeston, IL: Cornjerkers
Fun Fact: Cornjerking is a harvesting process also called corn snapping, corn shucking, or corn husking. Intimidating, huh?
Frankfort, IN: Hot Dogs
Fun Fact: The maximum weight of a Dachshund is around 32 pounds.
Logansport, IN: Berries
Fun Fact: Despite having Felix the Cat as their official mascot and logo throughout academic and athletic programs, the moniker of Logansport High School’s athletic teams is the Loganberries, which is a pun on the city’s name. The loganberry is a hybrid of a blackberry and a red raspberry. The basketball gymnasium at Logansport High School is named the Berry Bowl.
San Jose, CA: Bellarmine College Preparatory School Bellarmine Bells
Fun Fact: This prep school, whose mascot is a huge angry bell, happens to be an all boys school.
Priddy, TX: Pirates
Fun Fact: Why yes, they are the Priddy Pirates 😉
Bay St. Louis, MS: St. Stanislaus Rock-A-Chaws
Fun Fact: A Rock-A-Chaw is a sand spur. For context for us Northers, a sand spur is a weed.
Cleveland, MS: Delta State Fighting Okra
Fun Fact:According to Wikipedia, “The ‘Fighting Okra’ grew out of humor among students about the improbability that anyone would find a Statesman’ particularly frightening. In the mid-1990s, a student vote was taken, resulting in the university taking on ‘The Fighting Okra’ as an unofficial mascot.”
Columbia, MO: Kewpie Naked Babies
Fun Fact: A Kewpie is a character that was drawn in a comic strip to teach people to be merry and kind at the same time. It was a cutesy, genderless version of Cupid, with wings on its shoulders, starfish hands, and a head that comes to a point called a topknot.
New Berlin, IL: Pretzels
Fun Fact:According to Theo Nust, a beloved member of the New Berlin community, the mascot was born out of a story from a basketball tournament in the 1920’s when some of players began throwing pretzels at one another.
Itasca, TX: Wampus Cat
Fun Fact: There are actually 6 high schools who claim this mascot, which is explained to be “an undefined imaginary animal.“
Poca, WV: Poca Dots
Fun Fact: While the original mascot was actually a Native American riding a horse, they are most commonly known as the “Dots.” They were first referred to as the ‘Poca Dots’ in 1928 during a storming football game when a reporter said, “They look like a bunch of red polka dots running around the field!”
Robstown, TX: Cotton Pickers
Fun Fact: The community is proud of their rich history and how they provided for themselves, including picking cotton.
Key West, FL: Conchs
Fun Fact: Key West locals are also called Conchs.
Public Schools, OK Demons
Fun Fact: We appreciate one coach’s motto: “Fight! Finish! Faith! And Go Demons!”
Martinsville, IN: Artesians
Fun Fact: Artesians are spring bath houses.
Pender, NE: Pendragons
Fun Fact: Pendragon is also the last name of legendary King Arthur.
Fun Fact: We’re not exactly sure why Benson chose this mascot, but legend has it that when the school was built, it was built atop a hill full of bunnies. We’ll just be over here trying to decide which is mightier: a bunny or a button.
So when you come home to visit your family, don’t forget to come visit ours too. If you’re passing our house on the way out of town and you think about pulling in the driveway, do it. That bonus room in the new house is being built with you boys in mind—a place where the boys can always gather. And if you come to a game, you better give me a hug.
I share this story in hopes of being an encouragement. We all come from different backgrounds, have different interests and personalities. We know for a fact that being a coach's wife is tough much of the time, and that some of us adapt to it better than others.
After two and a half hours of a screaming baby (who never fusses) and three other littles who weren’t following any instructions (because who wants to follow those once you are home from school), I needed a sub. I sent out my SOS text. It was met with a call.
You get the best of the man who loves the game, but cares about your character more. While most of the world sees you as wins and loses and what you did right and what you messed up, he sees the man you can become. He sees your strengths, but he also takes the time to help you improve your weaknesses.
And I promise you, I'm in this thing, 100% – through all the wins, and all the losses. I'll take the grumpiness and the racing mind. I'll take the distractedness and the tired eyes. I'll take the long conversations about the same frustrations over and over again.
For those of you who didn’t take this approach, you understand just how important other coaches' wives are, not only to your survival, but also to your flourishing.
For those of you who maybe are doing what I did, I hope you realize you’re making the sacrifices whether you admit it or not. There is no need to deny yourself this one aspect of the lifestyle that could actually fill you up.
As someone who has seen it first hand in my home, thank you for being a positive role model for my children. We appreciate you and we love watching you become the athlete that you worked so hard to be.
Don't feel like you can't miss a game.
Guilt about missing a game is a real thing. I get it. I hate missing a game too. Being a coaching family is our life, and I feel like I am not supporting my coach if I miss a game. Here's the thing though, sometimes it's just too much. Some days, you might be completely exhausted from still trying to get the hang of having an infant, or your 7-month-old might be teething, or your toddler might have been throwing tantrums all day, and even just the thought of getting to the game is too much. Guess what? That is okay. Be honest with your coach about this, and learn the other ways you can support him – even when you are not able to be present at a game.
But please know, on those hard days, when it seems like I'm SO over it, I don't begrudge this life we chose one bit. I am not bitter. I don't wish you were anything else but what and who you are. Not for one second.