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Sometimes It Only Looks Good on the Napkin

We cannot let the perfect be the enemy of the done. We cannot sacrifice our sanity by trying to run plays that just don’t work with our current personnel, life stage or needs. So don’t try. Sometimes you just have to wad those things up, toss them away and draw up something new.

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The Truth is, It’s More than Just One Season

Once I heard a parent fussing that “these coaches only work with these boys for 3-4 months out of the year…” I laughed out loud at the time. But the other day, it got me thinking. Every career, every position, every role in this life has its seasons. I’m a teacher. August and ...

Family, Journal, Marriage

The Coach’s Wife Inside Me is Coming Out—and I Had No Idea She Was There

The rye grass on the baseball field has just started to turn green, and every day I ride by the field and think to myself, “Man, what a field! That Coach is killing it this year.” This is coming from a woman who has zero flowers planted in her yard. Don’t get me wrong, Coach has our yard ...

Family, Journal, Marriage

This is How I Fight the Anxiety of Job Season

So, each year as the season is winding down or over for good, and that feeling starts to creep in, I remind myself no matter how much I worry or even how confident I feel, it will not make a difference. I try to remind myself that whatever happens, it will all work out for our favor in the end.

Family, Journal, Marriage

All I Want for Christmas … Is to Not be a Coach’s Wife Anymore

You, my friend, are in the company of thousands of wives who have thought that very thing. It doesn’t mean you aren’t loyal. It doesn’t mean you aren’t supportive and it definitely, definitely does not mean you are a “bad” coach’s wife. It means you are normal. And human. And loved … by the ...

Family, Friendship, Journal

When You’re the Family Left Behind

Transition is never easy. We’ve been the family that leaves, and we’ve been the family that is left behind. In my experience, staying behind is as hard of an adjustment as moving.

Journal, Marriage

Coaches’ Wives Need More Than a Locker Room Speech – We Need a Change in Mindset

The truth is that coaches’ wives do need to be motivated, inspired, and championed. The seasons are challenging both physically and mentally, not just for the coach and the athletes, but for the coaches’ family too – but, coaches’ wives often need more than a locker room speech. We need radical ...

Faith, Family, Journal, Marriage

To the Coach’s Wife Wondering if It Will Ever Get Easier

I had parked myself right in front of a broken cistern. I'd fill it up, but all my joy and peace and compassion still seeped through the crevices and cracks, until it was once again empty. I would fill my tank up and only get a mile down the road before I was out of gas again. I wasn't filling ...

Family, Journal

Our Yearly Motto: New Team, New Routine

What I love about “new team, new routine” is that it eliminates the obligation to do something based on the rationale that it’s a tradition. It gives me time to re-evaluate my coach’s wife resume as well as permission to determine the best path forward for our family in the year ahead.

Family, Journal

A Coaches’ Wives Guide to End of Year Madness

It may be bittersweet, but sometimes change opens up a whole new happiness for you that you weren’t anticipating.

Journal

Why Our Plans Rarely Work Out as We Expect (And Why That’s Okay)

That’s the beautiful thing about dreams and plans. God knows our hearts, and he knows what is best for us. He knows that while some of us thrive in structure, our lists can also create false permission to establish boundaries and limit ourselves where more significant opportunities are possible.

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