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No, It Doesn’t Get Easier—You Just Get Stronger

Now, I laugh at the mention of an “off-season,” I add two hours on when coach says he will be home in fifteen, and I relish the challenge of attempting anything I’ve never tried before.

Journal, Marriage

When You Are Worn Out and Bone-Tired, Count On the Promises You Made

Being a coach’s wife is rarely ever fair ladies, in the trenches of any season, in the midst of early childhood years when every need relies on you, or even if it’s only you and your man—it is rarely fair. Nevertheless, every good football coach will tell you to never leave the game in the hand ...

Family, Journal, Marriage

Your Marriage isn’t Hard Because You Married a Coach—It’s Hard Because You Got Married

Maybe changes need to be made. Maybe priorities and boundaries need to be set or straightened or reorganized. But also? Maybe your needs aren't being met by your husband because they were never supposed to be.

Family, Journal

Dear Coach’s Wife, You Don’t Know How Lucky You Are

You and your kids get to be heavily involved in his job, his passion and his purpose. It’s not just coach who is setting the example for the next generation, it’s your entire family too.

Faith, Family, Journal

I am a Coach’s Wife and Sometimes I Cry Alone

I knew it would be sad to lose a game. Or many games. Losing is never fun. Sure there would be sad times. But I didn’t know that we would always keep disappointment in tow. As a coach’s wife disappointment follows you like a flatbed truck and manifests itself in so many ways that can be hard to ...

Family, Journal, Marriage

I Wasn’t Prepared for this Life as a Coach’s Wife

I was not prepared for the pride and joy in this investment. Over and over I find that my heart is not prepared, but in many ways I can’t fully explain, instead it is renewed and repaired.

Family, Friendship, Journal

No Matter How Many Times You Move, Starting Over is Always Hard

I am trying to acknowledge the daily victories, like my child made his first friend or I found a dentist that doesn’t have a 6 month wait. With each small victory, it gets a little easier.

Family, Journal, Marriage

This Season, I Couldn’t Be a Good Coach’s Wife. And That’s Okay.

After a year of heartbreak, I went into this season emotionally and physically drained. I was working full time and trying to expand our family and I had reached my limit. I had nothing to give to football season. I did not want to socialize or cheer; I didn’t want to answer questions about how ...

Journal

Finding Purpose in a Losing Season

Football isn’t everything and there’s life beyond the score But the lessons we learn in these years help prepare us for more So to you young man, who has shown up every day The boy who hasn’t quit, whose loyalty hasn’t strayed You, my son, are building skills for your life Things that ...

Family, Journal

The Mid-Season Resentment is Here

That point when resentment has set in and boils in my blood with every dirty dish, load of laundry, whine from my kids, and blade of grass I see on my floor. That Friday when I catch myself sending that “Good Luck tonight, babe!” text later in the day and with less enthusiasm than in weeks past.

Family, Journal

Just Because You’re Struggling Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing

But that phrase reminds me that yes, while I am struggling -- absolutely, positively, no-doubt-about-it struggling -- that doesn't mean I'm failing. I've gotten some points on the board. Not as many as I'd like, but some.

Family, Journal, Marriage, Popular

Dear Husband, Before You Go

But please know, on those hard days, when it seems like I'm SO over it, I don't begrudge this life we chose one bit. I am not bitter. I don't wish you were anything else but what and who you are. Not for one second.

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