Yes, we step into that space and remind our men of the kids who do listen … of the kids who become adults and still reach out … of the kids who needed a surrogate father … of the kids who played out of their shoes … of the kids who just need one caring adult and our men stepped into the space, the space between winning and losing—and that made all the difference.
But I need you to know how much I love you when you are losing. I see you bring out the best you have to offer your athletes when you are losing.
We were given this season to love and support a group of young men that have shown us their true character. Character that is revealed through adversity, and these athletes demonstrated tremendous character in the way they prepared and competed every week.
You are not defined by the wins or losses. You’re investing into young men. That’s kingdom work for a risen king who wore a crown of thorns. And that crown is infinitely more profound than any state title ring. THAT is the crown to be known and defined by.
You, my husband, are what the world needs more of. A person who longs for the success of winning, but knows that life’s best and most important lessons are learned through the process.
Your husband has been fired and where in the world is God?
He was there three weeks ago when my girlfriend insisted that I meet her. She told me about the BIOY (Bible in One Year) app that I would need to cling to. Every single day there has been a nugget of truth I’ve been able to cling to. The day of the reassignment it read, “Relax and let God be God.”
He was there when my husband was reassigned and one week later we closed on a house that we were way over our head in. The house had been on the market for 2 years!
He was there over the past two years that we have had a renter and not one thing has happened that needed a repair.
He was there when the inspection on the sale of our house didn’t call for a single repair.
He was there when my office is off-site of the admin building even though I technically work there. He knew I wouldn’t be able to handle that.
He was there when He put a coworker in my life who is a fellow coach’s wife.
He was there when I finally let my husband have it because there were some things that just “needed to be said.” I had pent them up because I never want to add more damage in the storm. Nonetheless, certain things have to be said when storms are raging.
He was there when on the day my husband’s replacement was named, a job came open in the town I’d been praying we would move to.
He was there when my sister showed up with pie and brightened the whole weekend. Pie makes everything better!
The pain is there. The hurt is there. The uncertainty is there. The shock is there. The embarrassment is there. I would be a lying fool if I acted like it isn’t.
But He is there too, just like he said he would be and just like he has always been. I just have to make sure I’m looking.
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.” Isaiah 43:2
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.” Genesis 50:20
If you find yourself identifying with these thoughts, know that we are human and especially in sports we are taught accountability. But if holding ourselves accountable makes us lose perspective on the big picture, then we must refocus before the new season suddenly creeps up.
And I promise you, I'm in this thing, 100% – through all the wins, and all the losses. I'll take the grumpiness and the racing mind. I'll take the distractedness and the tired eyes. I'll take the long conversations about the same frustrations over and over again.