Most people only see the season unless they live within the sports industry. They only see the game and only care about the final score or record. And with regards to the coach’s wife, the fans, and parents, only pay attention to if we are at the game (or not.) Were the coach’s kids there? …
In our home, we’re in that crazy season between the disappointment of a football season that ended faster than we hoped it would and the beginning of a hopeful basketball season. The man I’m married to is one of those guys who chose the career path of a small school. He starts in August with …
I looked up from my phone as the car made one last slow turn to find myself at Fredericksburg High School’s football stadium. It’s the third stadium we have seen on this trip having turned off the highway twice to “check out the facilities.” Romance, ladies, with a capital R.
We love our husbands. No doubt about that. Still, some things can irritate and push our buttons, and when you are married to a coach, there seem to be even more buttons to push. For example, he says he will be home by 6:00 and walks in at 7:15 like it’s 6:00, and he didn’t …
It’s late in the year. The time change has happened, and the darkness comes on so early. For some, the season has ended, and Coach is back in the picture. For others, you’re in that weird space, moving from one season to the next. The school year or the season isn’t exactly new and shiny …
While winter break doesn’t always mean your calendar is empty, it is still a time to relax and recharge! This time is crucial to coaching couples to regroup and strengthen our relationships for the coming year. Intentional time as a couple is always important but often neglected. Now is the time to make a plan …
Dating at any age can be brutal. It is a roller coaster of ups, downs, diagonals, sudden stops, backward moves, and loop-to-loops. In my 20’s I could buckle up and muscle through the ride and see that thing through to the bitter end; even when I knew I should have bailed a few twists and …
We all know that men and women “speak different languages” but coaches, well…they take it to a new level. Hopefully, this glossary will help you understand “coach speak” a bit better. Coach Speak Decoded When Coach says: Practice will be done at 5:30. Translated: You won’t see him till 7:00 or after. 5:30 means they …
We have all been there. We have heard the complaints from the stands. We have read the negative comments on the school’s social media page (Pro tip: keep scrolling). And last but not least, we hear it from our husbands. Like the time the new head coach deciding to meet on Sundays…during church *facepalm*. Or …
If you are like me, you probably think your coach is brilliant! However, as smart as my favorite over-grown eighth-grader is at anticipating a worthy opponent, he usually fails miserably if I expect him to read my mind. And round-about week five or six, my “coach love meter” threatens to bounce on an empty tank, …
“One of the most beautiful things about the way God designed marriage is that when we love our partners as Jesus modeled, we reflect Christ’s love and heart to each other every day. Sacrificial love in marriage is a two-way street. ” Lessons from the Sidelines Sadly, in the past twenty years, I have watched …
On June 10, 2019, we arrived at the clinic for a routine ultrasound. We went every two weeks to check the growth of our identical twin boys. My husband had finished coaching morning workouts and would leave for 7-on-7 football after our appointment. Unexpectedly, the ultrasound technician could not find Baby A’s heartbeat. I was …
Here comes the bride, but first, it’s football season. First off, CONGRATULATIONS. We can’t wait to welcome you into this coaching wife lifestyle but also know we understand what you are going through. I was in your shoes not long ago. I was a football player’s girlfriend and coach’s fiancé before I was a coach’s …
We’ve been living the coach’s wife life a while, twenty years in fact if you count dating and marriage. So, I guess it shouldn’t have surprised me when we were lying in bed a few weeks ago and I heard those familiar, quiet sniffles. It’s always him who starts first and, it’s always over something …
I don’t know about you, but I hate the saying, “We interrupt this marriage to bring you football season.” I would agree that it is hard, and you have to adapt and make sacrifices and there is never enough time in the day. But I also think there are ways to make the season sweeter …
Look, we’re all in this business together, and though we need support, we have to realize that everyone has different versions of it. Some people need to relate to others in the game; some find solace with friends who are far removed. I would rather spend my extra time with my family in one room, laughing and watching our kids wrestling each other, than plan a party that coaches and their families feel obligated to attend.
A couple of days ago I was unbuckling our oldest when she looked up at me and said, “Daddy’s never coming back.” “What?” I was so confused. Then through tear-filled eyes, she whispered, “He’s always at work.” My heart broke into a million pieces. It was true. He had just worked a 90+ hour week …
You see, my husband is a high school football coach, and he’s been married to the game for a really, really, long time. They were a thing long before he and I were a thing. And when we started dating, I had to come to terms with the rules of engagement.
Because when you pray to God, you are also praying to the Holy Spirit who is living inside your husband. I promise, it/he/she/that spirit will do a much better job of leading him than your frustration ever will.
You'll realize that to do it the right way, to be the best possible coach's wife (and person), the one that the community and school deserve, it's going to cost you a piece of your heart.
