We have all been there. We have heard the complaints from the stands. We have read the negative comments on the school’s social media page (Pro tip: keep scrolling). And last but not least, we hear it from our husbands. Like the time the new head coach deciding to meet on Sundays…during church *facepalm*. Or …
If you are like me, you probably think your coach is brilliant! However, as smart as my favorite over-grown eighth-grader is at anticipating a worthy opponent, he usually fails miserably if I expect him to read my mind. And round-about week five or six, my “coach love meter” threatens to bounce on an empty tank, …
“One of the most beautiful things about the way God designed marriage is that when we love our partners as Jesus modeled, we reflect Christ’s love and heart to each other every day. Sacrificial love in marriage is a two-way street. ” Lessons from the Sidelines Sadly, in the past twenty years, I have watched …
On June 10, 2019, we arrived at the clinic for a routine ultrasound. We went every two weeks to check the growth of our identical twin boys. My husband had finished coaching morning workouts and would leave for 7-on-7 football after our appointment. Unexpectedly, the ultrasound technician could not find Baby A’s heartbeat. I was …
Here comes the bride, but first, it’s football season. First off, CONGRATULATIONS. We can’t wait to welcome you into this coaching wife lifestyle but also know we understand what you are going through. I was in your shoes not long ago. I was a football player’s girlfriend and coach’s fiancé before I was a coach’s …
We’ve been living the coach’s wife life a while, twenty years in fact if you count dating and marriage. So, I guess it shouldn’t have surprised me when we were lying in bed a few weeks ago and I heard those familiar, quiet sniffles. It’s always him who starts first and, it’s always over something …
I don’t know about you, but I hate the saying, “We interrupt this marriage to bring you football season.” I would agree that it is hard, and you have to adapt and make sacrifices and there is never enough time in the day. But I also think there are ways to make the season sweeter …
Look, we’re all in this business together, and though we need support, we have to realize that everyone has different versions of it. Some people need to relate to others in the game; some find solace with friends who are far removed. I would rather spend my extra time with my family in one room, laughing and watching our kids wrestling each other, than plan a party that coaches and their families feel obligated to attend.
A couple of days ago I was unbuckling our oldest when she looked up at me and said, “Daddy’s never coming back.” “What?” I was so confused. Then through tear-filled eyes, she whispered, “He’s always at work.” My heart broke into a million pieces. It was true. He had just worked a 90+ hour week …
You see, my husband is a high school football coach, and he’s been married to the game for a really, really, long time. They were a thing long before he and I were a thing. And when we started dating, I had to come to terms with the rules of engagement.
Because when you pray to God, you are also praying to the Holy Spirit who is living inside your husband. I promise, it/he/she/that spirit will do a much better job of leading him than your frustration ever will.
You'll realize that to do it the right way, to be the best possible coach's wife (and person), the one that the community and school deserve, it's going to cost you a piece of your heart.
Give it time. You are going to fall more and more in love with this life than you ever knew was possible.
As another season is upon us, many couples are working out their roles in a new staff or, like us, have experienced a change in family dynamic (thank God our babies were actually born in the off-season).
To the head coaches and their wives: I beg of you to consider your staff. Each member.
So you just got engaged and now you’ve been Pinteresting wedding Inspo like it’s your job! Okay fine, yes, your bridal board has actually been active long before you met Mr. Coach but now you’re Team Captain and you’re determined to get that W. After sifting and sorting through pins for the umpteenth …
How do I deal with being home all the time by myself with just the dog?? I’m going crazy!!!
Going Stir Crazy
You know what? Nobody's life is perfect. If you realize that now, you will save yourself much anxiety, pain, and stress. During season, schedules are crazy, nights get late, and your home will most likely become a mess. As a recovering perfectionist, this is something that freaked me out . . . especially early on in the season.
You do not have to do this coaches’ wife thing alone. There are many who have walked before you, and there are many who walk alongside your journey. Embrace your title; it’s part of your calling.
It may be bittersweet, but sometimes change opens up a whole new happiness for you that you weren’t anticipating.
It’s Monday, and we’re answering another question in our Veteran Coach’s Wife series. QUESTION FROM NEWBIE WIFE Dear Veteran Coach’s Wife, This is my husband’s first year coaching. I truly think he is having a hard time balancing time with the team & time at home. I am home 9/10 times by myself each night. The …
