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Learning the Tension of Being Fully Independent and Fully Supportive

The coach’s wife life is this wild dichotomy of having your life (from your daily schedule to your entire future) be dependent upon someone else, their dreams and performance. But at the same time, in order to survive and thrive in it, you must learn to be independent from that person and ...

Journal, Marriage

Dear Husband, As We Enter Our First Season Together

And then there are the days when I want nothing more than to support you but I have nothing to give. I am physically exhausted, mentally spent, and I think if I hear one more spiel about offensive strategy or next week's opponent I will pull my hair out. Those days are hard.

Family, Journal, Marriage

Your Marriage isn’t Hard Because You Married a Coach—It’s Hard Because You Got Married

Maybe changes need to be made. Maybe priorities and boundaries need to be set or straightened or reorganized. But also? Maybe your needs aren't being met by your husband because they were never supposed to be.

Journal, Marriage

I Married a Coach; and Romance Looks a Bit Different for Us

I looked up from my phone as the car made one last slow turn to find myself at Fredericksburg High School’s football stadium. It’s the third stadium we have seen on this trip having turned off the highway twice to “check out the facilities.” Romance, ladies, with a capital R.

Family, Journal, Marriage

Dear Coach, Save Some of Yourself for Me

I hate this feeling of distance, like you're holding me at arms length, even if it's just to protect me. Protect me from issues at work. Protect me from hard stories. Protect me from the anxieties racing through your head.

Family, Journal, Marriage

I Vow to Always Kiss You if I’m Awake When You Come Home … and Other In-Season Vows

It is easy to become frustrated with you when you haven’t been home for the 400th meltdown and for the 50th fight requiring a referee. It’s easy to not care about what you’ve been doing while I have been handling the home front, but I do truly care.

Faith, Journal, Marriage

5 Ways to Support to Your Husband During Season

There are hundreds of opportunities as coaches' wives to choose a good attitude about whatever is coming up. It could be him arriving home later than you expected, an event he forgot to tell you about, an added scrimmage or picked up game, or finding out he has to work when you thought he had ...

Journal, Marriage

I Gave Him the Green Light

Could he do this job without my blessing? Yes. But, when I give him my blessing and fully 100% support him, does it make his job easier? Absolutely. And when his job is made easier, does he dedicate himself a little more? Stay at practice a little later? Have a little less weight on his ...

Journal, Marriage

For Love of the Game … and For the Wife Not Feeling It

I share this story in hopes of being an encouragement. We all come from different backgrounds, have different interests and personalities. We know for a fact that being a coach's wife is tough much of the time, and that some of us adapt to it better than others.

Family, Journal, Marriage

The Coach’s Wife Inside Me is Coming Out—and I Had No Idea She Was There

The rye grass on the baseball field has just started to turn green, and every day I ride by the field and think to myself, “Man, what a field! That Coach is killing it this year.” This is coming from a woman who has zero flowers planted in her yard. Don’t get me wrong, Coach has our yard ...

Journal, Marriage

Love Languages (Coaching Style)

When we are better for each other we are better for our families, our children, and the athletes and communities we serve. It’s a pretty good investment that can pump out an exponential return.

Family, Journal, Marriage

The Three (Other) Words My Coach Loves to Hear

Two days a week when I kiss my husband good-bye in the morning, I say three words. In the midst of twins, backpacks, lunch boxes, school papers and jackets, I say these words. As he tries to go get out of the house on time directing my twin girls out the door, I say these words.

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